LOVE IS LOVE, RIGHT?

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 Once I was narrow-minded to think that we can’t love someone of the same sex. The reason is simple because it is prohibited in my religion, also how about having a child or having a descent? Back in my college time when I have a very first lesbian friend, I cannot agree with what she said about her feeling towards girls. But then I stopped. Can I just be a human? Have a feeling? Just being me, myself with my own thought.

Then I read about the UNDP report title “Tolerance but Not Inclusion”. That report showed a national survey of experiences of discrimination and social attitudes towards LGBT people in Thailand. It was blown my mind, 100%. It also made me realize that I’m spending too much time in my bubble. I’ve never seen the outside bubble. I was just society's mindset. I never asked myself, what should I react if one of my close friends, family, or even my children if were gay or lesbian? What should I do? Have you ever asked yourself that?

Then I started to think about being a human, put religion aside or anything, and just be me.

Things have changed. I learn a lot to be a human, to be Nadila with my own opinion, also I speak to myself, “wait, they (LGBTQ+) are human too”, they also have a feeling. They need to be accepted, they have their rights, some of them must be hiding in the room because afraid of society’s judgment. The thing is to feel what humans feel. I’m in my different religion relationship now, some of my families can’t accept the fact that I’m dating him, I always think it’s so hard to love someone in this cruel world, just because we are indifferent to religion. That fact haunted me that LGBTQ+ must be feeling the same but it’s 10,000 times harder (I know some LGBTQ+, not all), especially some LGBTQ+ who lived in a strong cultural and religious culture like Indonesia. Love is love, right? Can I just love someone because I love him/her? Can I love a woman like you love your man? Can I love my atheist boyfriend like you love your very Muslim boyfriend (this is out of the context but yeah)? Again, love is love, right?

Let them be them, and let’s just be human.

xoxo, Nadila J. Islamiaty

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